Believe In Yourself
Believe in Yourself, and Become More Assertive
You might feel weak, shy or uncomfortable to speak up your mind. This leads to lack of assertiveness and lack of confidence, and makes you believe that other people are stronger and more important. This is an erroneous and unproductive attitude.
No one is better or stronger than you are, and you need to change this negative image of yourself.
Assertiveness means standing up for your rights, and expressing your thoughts, feelings and beliefs clearly and fearlessly. This is done politely, while considering the rights, feelings and beliefs of other people.
Assertiveness enables you to act in your own best interests, while considering the right of others. This is what differentiate assertiveness from aggressiveness.
Sometimes, on the surface, assertiveness might resemble aggressiveness, because both of them involve firm behavior and action. However, there is a great difference between the two.
Assertiveness considers the rights of others and does not hurt anyone. On the other hand, aggressive behavior is too bold, inconsiderate, and uses a loud voice, force, and sometimes vulgarity and verbal violence.
Passivity versus Assertiveness
You behave passively, when you outwardly accept what others say and behave accordingly, while inside you, there is disagreement. With this behavior, you allow other people control your life. This kind of behavior shows lack of self-confidence and self-esteem.
You choose this behavior when you want to avoid disagreements. You choose this behavior when you want to avoid conflicts. Every time you don’t express your opinions, for fear of not being liked, you act passively.
Being passive gives the reins of your life to other people. Passivity makes it difficult to say no.
Assertive behavior is quite the opposite:
An assertive person possesses self-confidence and self-esteem, and expresses what he or she thinks and feels.
This behavior gives you the confidence to insist on doing things your way when you think you are right.
It enables you to resist manipulation and to prevent people from exploiting you.
When there is assertiveness, there is no fear to express disagreement.
You see how assertive people get their way, do things, and stand up for their rights, and you wonder what is their secret.
There is no secret.
These people were either born with this skill, or developed it, consciously or unconsciously.
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