Mother is flying a kite. Her son is watching her carefully. After some time son says “Mom. Because of the string the kite is not able to go any further higher.” Hearing this, the mother smiles and breaks the string. The kite goes higher and then shortly after that, it comes and falls on the ground. The child is very dejected and sad.
The mother sits next to him and calmly explains: “Son, in life we reach a certain level and then we feel that there are certain things that are not letting us grow any further like Home, Family, Culture etc. We feel we want to be free from those strings which we believe are stopping us from going higher. But, remember son. That our home, family and culture are the things that will help us stay stable at the high heights . If we try to break away from those strings our condition will be similar to the kite.” We’ll fall down soon..
Moral: “Never go away from home culture, family, and relationships as they help keep us stable while we are flying high.” Because Children, Relationships come because you brought them, respect and live to their expectations and the best way to nurture these is give and take, understanding and expectations are mutual not one way
Life is Beautiful 😊
Such small incident of flying the kite can become a lesson for us. If we learn to motivate and not advice.
You may occasionally question why you behave the way you do. You may not know what motivates your actions and behaviors. But it may be valuable for you to attempt to understand your intrinsic motivation more clearly. Understanding what drives you can be a beneficial part of becoming more successful and fulfilled in life, and create an easier decision-making process when it comes to making big life choices. In understanding the driving forces behind your actions, you can also understand how to motivate yourself when feeling down.
Psychology has developed many theories of motivation that try to explain what drives human behavior and desire.
There are eight theories of motivation in psychology that have been developed to explain why humans behave the way they do.
The evolutionary theory of motivation states that humans behave in ways to optimize their genetic fitness. The evolutionary theory focuses on getting results for your personhood.
According to the theory of evolution, the most genetically fit will survive and their genes will eventually be spread across the whole population. American philosopher and psychologist William James helped define the link between evolution and survival instinct as the key sources of motivation in humanity. Evolution implies that all animals, including humans, will act in a way that supports their highest reproductive potential. In this theory, the motivation behind behavior is seen as the need to survive and reproduce most optimally. In other words, behavior is formed instinctually through the need to survive and pass on genes.
Going hand-in-hand with evolutionary theory, optimization theory is about maximizing the desired results for the individual. It holds that humans will always choose the option that allows them to consume the most energy while expending the least amount of energy. It is a form of cost-benefit analysis.
Once you have an understanding of this theory at its most basic level, you can start to see it at work in your own daily life. Understanding that every action you take is related to some degree may help you decide your motivation behind each action. Beginning your day with intention and reminding yourself of that intention throughout the day is a good way to ensure that the sum of your actions are pointed toward your predetermined goal.
Herzberg’s Motivation-Hygiene Theory
American psychologist and business management expert Frederick Herzberg’s theory of motivation was developed in the 1950s-1960s as a way to understand employee motivation and satisfaction.
The factors for satisfaction are:
Achievement and recognition
The work itself
Advancement and growth
The hygiene factors are:
Relationship for supervisor and peers
Salary and status
The hygiene factors are mainly attributed to the workspace environment and what kind of constraints are put around the employees. Through these findings, Herzberg concluded that the most motivation creation occurs not just when hygiene factors are in order, but when hygiene factors are adequately addressed and there is great focus on satisfaction factors such as achievement and recognition. Put more simply, employees perform at their highest level when the work environment is healthy and they feel like they are achieving success and rewards in their job.
If you connect to this theory of motivation, then you may wish to focus on finding a work environment that satisfies all of these needs as you work toward achieving happiness inside and outside of your career.
Herzberg’s this principle can also be applied in family or group. Think how we can learn to apply to motivate and satisfy everyone around us.