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Through right listening, transformation happens spontaneously.
Clouds are there, because without clouds there can be no lightning – dark clouds of thoughts are there. Somebody has insulted you, somebody has laughed at you – many dark clouds are there in the inner sky and much lightning. Watch. It is a beautiful scene – terrible also, because you don’t understand. So you are afraid of it.
Right listening is an in-going phenomenon, it always goes inwards: the less aware you are, the more out you are; unconscious – you are completely out of your house, wandering around. Unconsciousness is a wandering outside; consciousness is a deepening of the inside.
Sanjiv will like to share his own experience:
In my professional life, I come across such kind of incidents quite often. When something is put up to me for approvals, I immediately make a view depending upon my own past experience, knowledge and intellect. In case of rejection, people used to call me for explaining the matter. Many a times, when I listened to their views, my own perspective changed and I changed my decision from reject to approve.
Learning from this is that we should not make our view unless we listen to other’s views also. Mostly what happens is, once we make our own view on something, we don’t listen to others. Even if we pretend not to be autocratic and give them a chance to discuss the matter further, we don’t listen to them. We just hear them for the sake of it. This is not right listening.
Right listening is when you listen to others with full awareness with an open and empty mind.
Recollect from your own life, when you listen rightly how much space you felt within yourself? With that you accept others unconditionally. How much openness was there inside you.
You have to remember continuously, because the struggle is long, and the journey is arduous. Many times you will forget, many times you will start judging. Many times you will find yourself getting identified with this or that, the ego will assert itself again and again. Whenever the ego asserts itself, whenever identification happens, whenever judgment arises, immediately remember: right listening, and there will be understanding.
And understanding is the secret of transformation. If you can understand anger, immediately you will be showered with compassion.
