A farmer got so old that he couldn’t work the fields anymore. So he would spend the day just sitting on the porch. His son, still working the farm, would look up from time to time and see his father sitting there.
“He’s of no use any more,” the son thought to himself, “he doesn’t do anything!” One day the son got so frustrated by this, that he built a wood coffin, dragged it over to the porch, and told his father to get in.
Without saying anything, the father climbed inside. After closing the lid, the son dragged the coffin to the edge of the farm where there was a high cliff. As he approached the drop, he heard a light tapping on the lid from inside the coffin. He opened it up.
Still lying there peacefully, the father looked up at his son. “I know you are going to throw me over the cliff, but before you do, may I suggest something?” “What is it?”
replied the son. “Throw me over the cliff, if you like,” said the father, “but save this good wood coffin. Your children might need to use it.”
Just because of the age you felt pity for the old man. But never thought once that he has not changed himself. Because he was coming from all his old pattern of thinking he was just sitting ideal. He did not want to change with the present moment. Also he did not had the courage to die, to do sucide. So created such a situation in that the son might come under a lot of emotional pressure so he can end his life. And all the blame will be on his son for his death.
Let me tell you something differently. When initially VRS has come many people took advantage of the scheme. But few of them had well planned before taking VRS. people who have not planned how money and time needs to be planned out they went into depression. Some of them even done sucide also. But the people who planned their time and money they become more successful than before.
So when we don’t plan and organize ourselves we will create misery for ourselves and force others emotionally and ruin their life also.
One more thing many of the children go and settle abroad. Parents are very happy when they are setting there. There the whole life style is different. So when they invite the parents over there and ask them to settle many of them think that our children need to now serve us, instead of helping them they become such a burden to them that after returning from there they will create a scenario as if the children had no love for them. But they never realize that they could not adjust to the new life style over there, they were not ready for any change, any change in their thinking. They were stuck.
It is very easy to find any excuses and blame others but in the end we only suffer for it. When we blame others and with the help of language we can emotionally black mail them. It is nothing but satisfying our ego.
Ask yourself what is more important to you your ego, blame game or peace, love. Even if you don’t do any prayers or meditation but if you take charge of yourself, don’t blame anyone, accept the change, live the change and see how much of peace, happiness and love you will feel for yourself. That will become your meditation, your prayer.
When you don’t put blame on others do you know that you become giver instead of the receiver. Another thing never find excuses for not doing anything. Because when you act in that there is no blame for others, you will find gratitude will arise from within. It will not be for formalities but from your love for another person. You will find so many advantages if you don’t blame anyone but participate in their responsibility.
Learning from story Wood Coffin: Don’t Blame
All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.
How we can live our life without blaming others. The key of living without blaming is forgiveness.
Forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth. Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more than a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis-empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would know more peace.
Below I share how to forgive someone who has hurt you in 15 steps for the next 7 days:
Step 1: Move On to the Next Act
Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don’t allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act.
Step 2: Reconnect to Spirit
Make a new agreement with yourself to always stay connected to Spirit even when it seems to be the most difficult thing to do. If you do this, you will allow whatever degree of perfect harmony that your body was designed for to proliferate. Turn your hurts over to God, and allow Spirit to flow through you.
Your new agreement with reality in which you’ve blended your physical self and your personality with your spiritual God-connected self will begin to radiate a higher energy of love and light. Wherever you go, others will experience the glow of your God consciousness, and disharmony and disorder and all manner of problems simply will not flourish in your presence. Become “an instrument of thy peace.”Tags: Don’t Blame