There was once a holy man who lived in a state of ecstasy, but was regarded by everyone as insane.
One day, having begged for food in the village, he sat by the roadside and began to eat when a dog came up and looked at him hungrily. The holy man then began to feed the dog; he himself would take a morsel, then give a morsel to the dog as though he and the dog were old friends. Soon a crowd gathered around the two of them to watch this extraordinary sight.
One of the men in the crowd jeered at the holy man. He said to the others, “What can you expect from someone so crazy that he is not able to distinguish between a human being and a dog?”
The holy man replied, “Why do you laugh? Do you not see Vishnu seated with Vishnu? Vishnu is being fed and Vishnu is doing the feeding. So why do you laugh, oh Vishnu?”
We are also judging everyone’s behaviour. We only look at the behaviour of the person and not the context.
Do we know why we want to judge the other person because we feel jealousy. As we are not capable of behaving or have courage to live in a similar manner we have jealousy.
When we are jealous no one else but we are the looser. How because same time we could have created something and utilize for our personal growth we are using not only our time but our valuable energy which could have become creative had become destructive. By giving our judgement we can satisfy our ego but at what cost? Can we get that time and energy back? Ask yourself.
When you judge others somewhere you are comparing yourself with others. This triggers jealousy in you. Be aware of yourself be alert as the same time you can use for your growth, for your creativity.
Eliminate jealousy by recognizing it as a put-down of yourself. By comparing yourself to some other person and imagining you are loved less, you make others more important than you. You are measuring your own merit in comparison to another. Remind yourself: someone can always choose another without it being a reflection on you… and also, whether or not you are chosen is not the way you validate your own self-worth.
One of the deep down reasons for jealousy is insecurity, recognition.
Insecurity can make jealous your best friend and ruin relationships forever. If that’s not bad enough, when insecurity veers its ugly head and jealous drama takes over, you perpetuate a never-ending cycle of anger, depression and chaos that not only causes problems for yourself, but also jeopardizes your relationships.
Learning from Vishnu With Vishnu: Eliminate Jealousy
What Is Jealousy?
Jealousy is a complex emotion that encompasses feelings ranging from fear of abandonment to rage and humiliation. It strikes both men and women and is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party. The threat may be real or imagined.
Not limited to romantic relationships, jealousy can also arise among siblings competing for parental attention, among co-workers, or in friendships. Jealousy is distinguished from envy in that jealousy always involves a third party seen as a rival for affection. Envy occurs between two people and is best summed up as “I want what you have.”
Although jealousy is a painful emotional experience, evolutionary psychologists regard it not as an emotion to be suppressed but as one to heed—as a signal, or a wake-up call that a valued relationship is in danger and that steps need to be taken to regain the affection of one’s mate or friend. As a result, jealousy is seen as a necessary emotion, because it preserves social bonds. It motivates people to engage in behaviors that maintain important relationships.
What are the causes behind jealousy?
If you think that you got jealous because of the way he talked to her or because of the way she smiled at him then you are wrong. Jealousy is like most of the other emotions, it comes from within.
A big part of the problem lies within you and not with the person you are jealous of. The following are possible root causes for jealousy:
Jealousy root cause #1:Lack of self confidence: The main cause for feelings of jealousy are your doubts about your abilities or skills. If you were one hundred percent sure of yourself you would have never suffered from any jealousy feelings
Jealousy root cause #2: Poor self image : Having a poor self image is another cause of jealousy. If you believe that you look ugly or that you are not that handsome then chances are you’ll be experiencing feelings of jealousy whenever you meet someone who looks better than you
Jealousy root cause #3: Fear : One of the root causes behind jealousy is being afraid. This fear can be a fear of ending up alone, a fear of being rejected or a fear of losing the love of your partner.
Jealousy root cause #4: Insecurity: Feelings of insecurity are the result of the two previously mentioned causes. A poor self image and lack of self confidence can result in making you Feel insecure about a relationship and this can be a strong reason that can make you jealous.Tags: Eliminate Jealousy