Quality
When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.
The neighbor with the perfect lawn. The friend with a successful, high-paying career. The stranger on social media that you’ve never met but assume, given their seemingly perfect photos, that they lead the perfect life.
Reasons to quit may go beyond the fact that they’re simply unproductive and leave you feeling poorly about yourself. Making these social comparisons can be damaging to your health, both physically and psychologically. Being aware of how harmful comparisons are could serve as great motivation to give them up.
Tips to Stop Comparing
It may sound simple to just suggest putting a stop to social comparisons—but the question is how do you actually stop? Here are some ways to help you stop making social comparisons.
1. Limit (or eliminate) time on social media. As mentioned, social media is often used as a place to share what you want people to see, not necessarily what’s closest to reality. Whether or not its contents even accurate, at the very least it’s likely exaggerated. Cutting back on social media or taking a break altogether can do wonders for your mental health. Spend the extra time understanding the triggers that lead you to making social comparisons so that when you log back into your accounts, you’re prepared to let those things go.
2. Make a list of accomplishments you’re proud of. The more confident you are in yourself, the less inclined you’ll be to evaluate how you stack up against others. Write a list of your proudest accomplishments, traits, strengths, and even things you’re grateful for. This will put you in a healthier mindset, making you less likely to engage in the comparison game.
3. Become clear on what you want. When you’re unsure of what you want in life or how to go about achieving it, you can tend to feel unanchored. Become more grounded by gaining clarity as to the direction your life is going. Write out your short-term and long-term goals and steps necessary to accomplish them. Once you feel more secure in your own life, the temptation to overinvest in others will dissipate.
Children love to explore and experiment with their environment, allow them to do things and learn from their mistakes. Trial and error is the best way to develop brain and motor skills.
Encourage them to do small jobs like fixing their own lunch box, making their bed, doing some laundry (like washing a handkerchief or socks). Assign them these jobs depending upon their age and capability.
Raising responsible children demands that you stop being “helicopter parents”—stop hovering over your child
Theodore Roosevelt said it best when he stated, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” If you want to become your best self, making your mental and physical health top priority, you must choose joy and resist the urge to make unhealthy comparisons.
Quality of Spoon: Stop Comparing
Tags: Self Dependent
