VBT – Week’s Meditation 18

VBT – Week’s Meditation 18

Bliss Happens

IN THE MIDDLE OF THE OBJECT – THE BLESSING. Suddenly you have forgotten yourself – the other was there. Then when the right moment comes, when you are no longer present, absolutely absent, the other will also become absent. And between the two the blessing happens. That is what lovers feel. That blessing is also because of an unknown, unconscious meditation.

When two lovers are there, by and by, they both become absent. A pure existence remains – without any egos, without any conflict… just a communion. In that communion one feels blissful. It is wrongly inferred that the other has given that bliss to you. That bliss has come because unknowingly you have fallen into a deep meditative technique.

You can do it consciously – and when you do it consciously it goes deeper, because then you are not obsessed with the object. This is happening every day. If you love someone, you feel blissful not because of him or her, but because of love. And why because of love? Because this phenomenon happens – this sutra happens.

But then you become obsessed. Then you think that because of A, because of A’s proximity, nearness, because of A’s love this blessing happens. Then you think, “I must possess A, because without A being present I may not be able to get this blessing again.” You become jealous. If someone else possesses A, then he will be blissful and you will feel miserable, so you want to take away all possibilities of A being possessed by anyone else. A should be possessed only by you, because you have glimpsed a different world through him. Then the moment you try to possess, you will destroy the whole beauty and the whole phenomenon.

When the lover is possessed, love is gone. Then the lover is just a thing. You can use it, but the blessing will never come again, because that blessing was coming when the other was a person.

The other was made, created: you created the person in the other, and the other created the person in you. No one was an object. Both were subjectivities meeting – two persons meeting, not one person and one thing.

But the moment you possess, this will become impossible. And the mind will try to possess because the mind thinks in terms of greed: “One day bliss has happened, so it must happen to me every day. So I must possess it.” But bliss happens because there is no possession. And the bliss happens not because of the other, really, but because of you. Remember this, the bliss happens because of you.

Because you are so absorbed in the other, bliss happens.

It can happen with a rose flower, it can happen with a rock, it can happen with the trees, it can happen with anything. Once you know the situation in which it happens, it can happen anywhere. If you know that you are not, and with a deep love your consciousness has moved to the other – to the trees, to the sky, to the stars, to anyone; when your total consciousness is addressed to the other it leaves you, it moves away from you – in that absence of the self is the blessing.