Object-Referral
Most of us have learned to find our identity in our relationships, work, accomplishments, possessions, personality and body. This is known as “object-referral,” which means that we identify with objects outside of ourselves. By their very nature, these objects are always changing, and as long as we tie our identity to them, we will never know our Individuality. We may feel happy when things go our way, but we’ll always feel an underlying current of instability or insecurity, because part of us knows that the source of our good feelings can disappear at any moment.
The opposite of object-referral is self-referral, which means that we become aware of our Individuality, the unchanging essence of our soul. Self-referral is an internal state of well-being that doesn’t depend on external circumstances.
When we’re living from an awareness of our Individuality, we feel connected to all that exists; we experience infinite creativity; we feel free of limitation; we are fearless and willing to step into the unknown; we experience the spontaneous fulfillment of our desires; and we view ourselves and the world with compassion.
True self-esteem comes from discovering that who you really are is infinite spirit, unbounded and eternal. Once you’ve awakened to your essential nature, you will let go of the ego’s struggle to build an external sense of self-worth. Your Individuality doesn’t need to be improved, changed or even healed. It is whole, perfect and complete, exactly as it is. Shifting your awareness to your Individuality frees you to create a life of abundance, joy and fulfillment.
