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Remember, in our innermost being, we are all completely lovable because spirit is love. Beyond what anyone can make you think or feel about yourself, your unconditioned spirit stands, shining with a love nothing can tarnish.

If we look to our relationships to complete us and fulfill our unmet needs for happiness and love, then those relationships often result in disappointment. And, if we believe that those we are in a relationship with are responsible for making us happy and whole, then we create unhealthy expectations that are impossible to meet.

This sense of lack can cause us to feel fear whenever our partner is not satisfying our expectations for attention, affection, and love, which leads to suffering and codependency. Such insecurity also causes us to act with jealousy and neediness, or to constantly seek approval. When this behavior becomes compulsive, obsessive, and destructive, it manifests as an addiction.

The problem is that we look outside for love and approval, but our relationships reflect back to us what we think and feel about ourselves on the inside. When we are attracted to a person, what we are actually drawn to are the traits we feel we lack and the characteristics we want more of.

In order to fulfill our unmet needs for worthiness and love, we must learn to love ourselves fully. What we really seek is to reconnect with that unconditional love lying deep within the heart of our beings. To find true love, we must look inward and reclaim our own self-love.

Trupti will like to share her experience of college days.

For further study, I left home and went to different town, living in the hostel. With the new environment and people around me, naturally I was facing lot of fear for many things.

Knowing well and feeling my fear initially I thought of going back home as I was feeling homesick. I was not able to feel or express my love.

One of my senior roommate suddenly realize this. She started talking with me and introduced me to many of the girls in the hostel. Once I started talking and mixed with many girls I made a lot of friends from different towns, culture and family. With the fear I was able to express my concern and feeling of love with them.

As the time passed somehow I forgot irrespective of the fear I can express my love. While writing this post suddenly it surfaced and remembered that I already have this ability. Now I will again start expressing my love irrespective of my fear. As due to my fear when I am not able to express my love no one else but I am only suffering. Thanks to DHC group for giving me the opportunity for this subject of wall and made me realize my love.