Acceptance – In Gita Verse 2.6 Nor do we know which is better – conquering them or being conquered by them. If we killed the sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, we should not care to live. Yet they are now standing before us on the battleﬁeld.
Arjuna is now able to see certain reality – he is not sure of who will win. But by saying “If we killed the sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, we should not care to live.” his honesty was expressed. He says that if we kill sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, without them there is no meaning to live the life.
Without them there is no meaning to live the life – doesn’t mean that he has any respect or love but he was honest with himself. His entire life has gone in conflict with the sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra, if they are not there then what he will be doing, his life was totally dependent on them. Conflict with sons of Dhṛtarāṣṭra.
In our unconsciousness it is very difficult to recognise our stuck mess, foolishness.
Saying this he accepted that his life is dependent on them as his entire life has gone in conflict. To accept is big challenge needs courage. Once we accept anything our focus shifts from problem to solution.
Look at some people who are fighting with their health and spending their time just taking care of their diseases. Look at the set of the people who take appropriate treatment and their focus is on their work and what they are able to deliver, give through their act. What’s the difference – set of people who are always taking care of their health and diseases are people who could not accept the body as whole, holy. Because for them sickness and diseases are not part of the body. So all their life they will have only one agenda that is fighting with the body. This group of people’s focus is on diseases, means problem.
Another set of people they accept their body as whole and holy, means with all the possibility of diseases. They don’t fight and spend their time just to prove that they have disease free body. They properly have a check-up for any diseases and take required treatment, medicine, start treating the diseases and work simultaneously. This set of people focus on the treatment means, solution for the diseases.
Acceptance has awareness in it. If you accept then immediately your focus changes from problem to solution.
Van Dijk, a mental health therapist in Ontario, Canada, shares insights on everything from validating our emotions to being more effective in our lives to getting through a crisis to improving our relationships.
We create suffering by not accepting reality. For instance, we say things like “It’s not fair,” “Why me?”, “This shouldn’t have happened” or “I can’t bear it!” Our instinct is to fight the pain, she writes. Normally, this instinct is protective. But in cases of pain, it backfires. We might avoid our pain or pretend it isn’t present. We might turn to unhealthy behaviors. We might ruminate about our suffering, without doing anything about it. We might turn to substances to forget the pain.
Instead, the key is to accept your reality. “Acceptance simply means that you stop trying to deny your reality and you acknowledge it instead,” says Van Dijk.
Acceptance does not mean that you approve of a situation or that you don’t want it to change. Acceptance is not a synonym for forgiveness, either. It doesn’t have to do with anyone else. “Acceptance is simply about whether or not you want to continue spending so much time and energy experiencing all of these painful emotions about a situation,” she writes.
Forgiveness is optional, according to Van Dijk. But acceptance is necessary for moving forward. “We can’t act to change things until we recognize them as they really are.”
Acceptance is powerful. Once we accept reality, our anger tends to decrease. The painful situation loses the power it has over us. While the pain doesn’t go away, the suffering does.
Focus on the present. Don’t try to accept something in the future, such as “you’ll never have a long-term relationship.” We have no idea what the future holds. Instead, you might work on accepting that you’re currently not in a relationship — if that’s bringing you suffering.
By saying and accepting “we should not care to live” he is turning towards his consciousness. In this awareness he says “Yet they are now standing before us on the battleﬁeld.” – means they all want to fight with us. Very faintly he remembers his assignment of universe. They are standing before us and with enmity and we have to fight with them without enmity.